Here’s How Your Inner Child Can Improve Your Writing


I am the most childish/mature person you’ve ever met. That’s an oxymoron, but I’ll explain. I had a very short childhood. A great one, but a short one. While my parents tried to give me everything in the world to make growing up the best it could be, things happened to me out of their control that plummeted me into an “early adulthood.” Like a freight train I couldn’t jump off of, I was taking care of my younger siblings and looking for a job right out of high school. Now at 24, married and occupying three jobs, I have found that being childish is more important for my writing career than ever.

Think about it: What are the major qualities in adulthood that hold you back from writing? Qualities you probably didn’t have as a toddler: Perfectionism, doubt, laziness, anxiety…I could go on. Being an adult does nothing to help our creativity. The older we get, the more we allow ourselves to be hindered by societies acceptable “image” of an adult. A 9-5 job, a family, a sturdy home and plan for the future. While these things are great to have, it shouldn’t keep us up late at night worrying about them, (i’m looking at the 20-somethings in the room.) The true secret to success is to approach life as a child would, and above all else, hold on to these 5 qualities:

  • Confident
  • Simple
  • Honest
  • Excited
  • Fearless

Children don’t worry about things they can’t change. They approach life with a beautiful simplicity that adults tend to tangle up and overthink. They’re confident in their ideas and who they are. No idea is too big, weird, over the top. As a child, the sky is the limit, and your imagination is your greatest tool. The next time you sit down to write, view your work-in-progress as a fearless child on an adventure in your mind. Approach the unknown with a fresh, new excitement…like a 10 year old being latched in to his first roller coaster. Each time your fingers touch the keys should feel like the first time. To me, that is the secret faerie dust necessary to writing a great book.

What keeps you young? Do you think childishness has helped or hurt your writing career? Leave a comment or let me know on Twitter – @NicoleLautore

Happy Writing!

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  1. What a great blog post idea, Nicole! All writers definitely need a degree of childishness (or maybe a more accurate phrase is “channel their inner child”) to let their craft loose. That’s often how I feel when I’m working on my WIP. Even though I’m focused and intent on making the story as compelling as it can be, my heart is cartwheeling. It thrills me, and I know I’m being my true self when I’m doing this. And there’s no better feeling in the world. And I think that speculative fiction in general requires a great deal of “inner child-dom” because of the sheer imagination that’s needed for world-building, magic systems, etc.

    So, yes. Writing, fantasy, gratitude, hope, and ice cream sundaes. Those help keep me young. *lol*

    1. I’m so glad you enjoyed it…and you are so right! My Dad teases me a lot that I tend to “have my head in the clouds” most of the time, and I think that is due to me being so close to my inner child.

      Thank you so much for reading and commenting! ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. This was a really great post.
    I know that I often find myself stressing over things I can’t change and the minimal amount of time I have to write or do anything I enjoy is one of them, but rather than stressing I’m just going to seize every moment.

    Also, just a childhood quality I never grew out of was wanting toys. I have a shelf full of funko pops, some stuffed animals, and a sailor moon statue. My mom just shakes her head and laughs because she know’s I’ll never grow out of it.

    Happy Writing! Can’t wait to see your book on the shelf one day!

    1. Thanks for your comment, Whitney! I hope this post helps you seize the moments!

      Happy writing to you as well!

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